Why don’t we pray more with our wives?
“Good question! I haven’t really thought about that.”
“Ah, we’re too busy.”
“It feels a bit strange suggesting and then leading my wife in prayer when we’re not at the dinner table or having devotions.”
Prayer is one very important ways we demonstrate—as a couple—our dependence upon God…for help in specific situations…and for the joy that each of us needs every day.
Here are 7.5 quick thoughts to encourage you in praying with your wife.
1. “Just do it!”
When you feel the urge, don’t put it off. Just do it. If the struggle is great simply confess this attitude to God at the beginning of your prayer. You’ll probably notice that God does some of his greatest work through these impromptu, weak, and sometimes, awkward prayer times.
2. Pray as part of your date night.
(You DO have one, right?) Leslee and I have a special place where we park the car and pray together on our way home from dates.
3. Pray before you discuss plans for the week.
We pray on Sunday nights before we plan the week simply asking God to help us make wise planning decisions.
4. Pray before you go to sleep.
Praying in bed may seem awkward, but it is a relaxing and usually uninterrupted place—unless you have 8 kids.
5. Pray specifically, “God, we are joyfully dependent upon you!”
This brings Him great glory. If this is not true, ask God to make it so. This also brings him glory!
6. Pray in thanksgiving
Specifically mentioning the glorious riches of our inheritance in Christ which includes: our adoption, forgiveness, blamelessness, holiness, redemption, and sealing in the Holy Spirit.
7. Don’t try to pray about everything at one prayer time.
Sometimes the prayer can be just a few sentences.
7.5 Pray with the assurance that God will bring you and your wife into greater unity as you pray together.
Unless the Lord builds the house, its builders labor in vain. Unless the Lord watches over the city, the watchmen stand guard in vain. -Psalm 127:1