What Does a Young Man Need to Know to be Ready to Marry?

Date

September 19, 2022

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Marriage

Parenting

Early this year, one of my adult sons moved out of state. Since then, he and I have talked almost every Sunday afternoon. A few weeks ago, during one of our conversations he asked, “What do I need to know in order to be ready to marry?” I was hit with a wave of emotions. First, who’s the girl?! Second, pride that he was thinking in a wise, mature way. Third, I thought we covered this years ago.

We Want to Hear From You!

I want to share with you what I said but I am not going to do that right now! Instead, I am going to do something unusual. Email me: eric@HomeInHim.org with how you would answer my son’s question.

When we receive enough responses, I will schedule a podcast where I share and discuss your responses (We will share your responses anonymously). I will let you know when we schedule the podcast!

I am excited to see what you have to share! Please take moment to email me your thoughts now.

Five Ways to Love your Husband

Five Ways to Love your Husband

Date

July 15, 2019

Categories

Marriage

Listen to him. Surprise! Men need to talk things through, too. If we’re not careful, conversations with our husbands can look like a game of wack-a-mole where we are beating down every word that comes out of their mouths! Whether it’s a challenge at work or a suggestion he has about how to re-organize the kitchen: hear him out.

Don’t over analyze him. This one is especially hard for us to do. We can make the mistake of thinking that there is some underlying thing going on in his mind. The plain and rather profound truth is that men are simple, what you see is generally what you get. I know it’s hard to understand because we ourselves are so complex and complicated, but it’s true. Embrace it!

Make time for him. We are busy running kids here and there, meeting friends for coffee, participating in ministry events. We often over-fill our calendars. This leaves little or no time to just be with our husbands. This can have the effect of them feeling neglected. But we need to be available to them! This involves intention on our part.

Pray for him. This is a given, I know, but so easily overlooked. I know I am guilty of letting this slip off of my priority list. What better way to bless our husbands than to call on the only One who knows them perfectly and wants what is best for them. Daily, we need to bring our husbands before the Lord and ask for protection over their health, their heart, wisdom in their work, and leadership of the family. Pray that God will use your husband mightily in ministering to others in his life. One of the best books I’ve read on this is The Power of the Praying Wife.

Finally, tell him the truth. What I am referring to here is reminding him of the truth of the Gospel. We are all surrounded by discouragement and stress everyday. We all need to be reminded of our identity in Christ as it provides the basis for living for him!

Practical Tips for Family Worship with Littles

Practical Tips for Family Worship with Littles

Date

May 23, 2019

Categories

Family Worship

Somedays you find yourself asking yourself “Is this making any difference?” It is! Press on friend. Here are some practical tips to help.

1- Music! You don’t have to be a professional or even sing on key, kids love it. Singing, dancing using homemade instruments, gives little ones an excitement for family devotion time. If you really don’t feel like you can do this on your own, play a CD and sing to a song or two.

2- Flannel board sets. A great interactive tool that children love.

3- Printable coloring pages. There are tons of free websites that have many to chose from based on the topic you happen to be discussing.

4- Acting out what is read.

5- Quiet toys saved just for family devotions… play sand or playdough, anything that can keep little hands busy. The bonus to these is that they can mold characters or other objects related to what is being read.

6- Carpet squares or rugs. When our kids were all little we used colored rugs for each child, this provided a boundary between them to avoid fights and also gave them personal space which they appreciated.

7- Prayer cards. Eric has written about our prayer card box, you can read the article here. The little ones look forward to choosing a person to pray for at the end of each reading time.

8- Memorize scriptures. Little kids love repetition, focus on a verse or two each week, reading it a couple of times a day, you will be amazed how quickly they will pick it up. They love putting motions to the words. We bought a simple sign language book and learned signs for some of the words.

9- Find the right time for your family. Don’t fall prey to doing things like others do. What works for one family may not work for you. You may find that reading right after breakfast is best when everyone is fresh. Maybe dad leaves too early and you need to use the dinner hour. You may find that including it in the bedtime routine works best for you. Our family has tried all of the above! Sometimes the time needs to be altered for a season due to other activities going on.

10- Never give up! Winston Churchill had it right! You will face discouragements, kids will run wild some days more than others. You will get out of practice and not read for a week or even a month. Don’t count it as a failure. Success is a process not an event. When things don’t work, change plans and keep going. I have seen this success, Eric has faithfully endeavored through all of these years… many of them with more kids under the age of five than over. They were crazy times, but he stayed with it. Our family devotions are second nature because the practice has been so established.

Have tips that weren’t mentioned? Please share below in the comments!

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